We tend to compare ourselves to those who are in our social circle. According to the happiness research, "upward comparisons" are particularly corrosive to our well-being. Envy doesn't leave room for joy. The Tibetan word for envy is trakdok, which means "heavy or constricted shoulders," and indeed the feeling of envy leaves one with a pinched feeling of discontent and resentment, tinged with guilt. (p. 137)
We reflected upon 5 powerful remedies for envy to be able to regain a full open heart in today's discussion. Archbishop Desmond Tutu revealed his three remedies:
- Gratitude -- by counting your blessings
- Motivation -- by using one's envy as a spur to improve our situation
- Re-framing -- by analyzing why I want to have something
For ten years when growing up, Giselle studied at a school taught in French, held within a convent. "We always went for 5. confession and asked forgiveness for our moral errors. Openly describing our moral quandaries was useful to bring light to these subconscious feelings."
* Check out the following online video, "Busted Halo: Faith Shared Joyfully", describing the process of confession - https://bustedhalo.com/video/penance-why-we-confess.
For next week: Please have read p. 145-168.